Making eye contact can be tricky, especially if you are shy, or nervous, but good eye-contact is important for building trust and engaging an audience. Even if you struggle to hold eye-contact now, all it takes is a little practice to confidently hold someone's gaze.
1. Turn your shoulders and head to face the other person's eyes. Opening up your body to the other person tells them you are listening, engaged, and ready to communicate. It also makes eye contact easier and more natural to maintain. Position yourself a few feet away from the other person's face.
- Laughing, nodding, and acknowledging the other person.
- Looking at the sky/weather.
- Looking off to the side briefly, as if remembering something.
- Running your hands through your hair.
Speaking to a Crowd
1. Look slightly above the crowd. You will never be able to make eye-contact with every person in a large group, so don't even try! Aim your eyes 2-3 inches above the heads of the group without focusing on one particular person.
- If you are at a podium or raised above the crowd, aim for the middle of the crowd without focusing on one particular person.
2. Shift your gaze every few sentences. You do not want to look straight ahead the entire time you are speaking. Every so often, turn your head a different direction. Try to look at every section of the crowd once or twice so that the whole audience feels like they have your attention.
3. Alternatively, choose 4-5 people to look at. This works best if you know several people in the crowd and feel comfortable speaking to them, like a classroom presentation. Simply rotate your gaze from one to the other every 10-15 seconds.
4. Rotate your gaze from person to person in small groups. If you keep eye-contact on one person the entire time the rest of the group may become disinterested or feel left out. As you speak, look in each person's eyes for 5-10 seconds before moving slowly to another person.
- This works best with groups of 3-5 people.
5. Make full eye-contact when someone else is speaking in a group. This lets the speaker know that they have your attention, are listening, and care about what they have to say. Most likely, they will only make eye-contact with you briefly, keeping things from seeming awkward.
Practicing Good Eye-Contact
- It is easier to practice while listening to someone instead of while you are talking.
- Job Interviews: Good eye-contact tells a boss that they can trust you. Be sure to look them in eyes while you talk, as it assures them that you know what you're talking about.
- Dates: Eye-contact can help you make an intimate connection, but it can be difficult to look away in a one-on-one setting. Hold your gaze longer than usual to show your attraction.
- Arguments: Strong eye-contact is a mark of assertiveness and power. Hold your opponent's gaze for longer periods of time so you do not appear weak or unsure of yourself.